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About Jürgen Schmechel
I am a keen observer of human psychology, and a master in NLP(Neuro Linguistic Programming), Ericksonian Hypnosis and am a certified Results Coach. I love numbers and and am known for my strong logical, analytical and numerical abilities. For years I have used these skills to serve exceptional good workflow models in business, but now, have discovered how my skills can be used to create the foundations of long, loving relationships.
“It will be the happiest day of my life ever!” I hear her say and she continues “I want to remember this event for the rest of my life.”
The average wedding now costs roughly $50,000, nearly the single biggest expense for a young couple, second only to entering the property market. No wonder a wedding can cause so much stress.
You want your wedding to be perfect. You want it to be remembered for all the right reasons. The bride wants to shine and to be “the most beautiful girl in the world” – and rightly so. Your special day really does come only once in a lifetime, right? So, you might as well splash out.
You want to make the right decisions and spend your money wisely. You want to fulfil all of your expectations, as well as those from your parents and your parents-in-law.
Recently I spoke with a client of mine about her long way to separation.
I’ve asked her what went through her mind while she was still in the relationship but wanted to get out. I was wondering what kind of thoughts were circling around in her head.
Was it denial? Was it anger?
“No” she said, “I just felt utterly helpless.”
She had her bag packed to leave, but she never did.
One of her friends eventually said to her “You have to unpack your bag!” and my client responded “What are you talking about?” To what her friend responded “You have your bag packed, haven’t you? I know this, I’ve been there myself. But you need to unpack it, because you are not leaving him.”
The point I want to make here is, that we all face situations in our lives where we feel utterly helpless.
This morning, while walking at the beach, I saw a little girl alone with her surfboard staring out into the roaring sea. She was freezing and shivering. “My dad is still out there surfing” she responded when I asked her. “Oh, does he know you are standing here waiting in the freezing wind?” And she assured me that he would know.
When I walked on, I took a look out to sea myself but could not make out which of the surfers might be her father and I could not see anyone making an effort to come to shore soon. I left her and walked on but turned my head around every now and then to see whether her father would finally pick her up.
My thoughts went to my own children and I asked myself whether I would have left one of my sons standing there, shivering and freezing. I doubt it.
You see, having children means making a lot of sacrifices.
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