When I speak to couples or individuals who seek me out for relationship guidance, I hear a lot of self-judgement.
Everyone is so reluctant to speak about their relationships and the issues they have. It seems like the common understanding goes something like ‘If your relationship is in dire straits then it must be your fault’. You are ashamed, you don’t want to expose your partner or yourself to public scrutiny.
“What’s wrong with them? Why can’t they work out their relationship? It’s not hard, is it?”
Wait a minute! Nowadays over 40% of marriages are ending in divorce. That is the same for the UK, the US, Canada, Germany, France and Australia.
Still people finding it hard to admit: “We are in trouble…”
They think they are regarded a loser.
They may feel like they’re being kicked out in the game of life.
They think of their family. “What would Mum say to this?”, “My brother will be furious.” or
“Our family does not do this kind of thing!”
Well, just like Monopoly, you set your token back to GO, take another $200 and start a new round.
Let me tell you this. Hitting a rough patch in your relationship is not your fault, and you do not need to be ashamed. It is way more normal than you think. It is a hard job to maintain a happy and supporting relationship. That’s just the way it is.
After over 25 years of marriage I can tell you, it requires daily work. That is absolutely no exaggeration. There are so many curved balls life can throw at you or your partner on every corner. You need to be agile and flexible to handle them all. It is daily work!
Obviously it does help to have the right tools and tips in your arsenal to be equipped for the next unforeseen event. The more you can rely on your partner, the stronger you and your relationship becomes.
If you want to equip yourself with the right tips, techniques and tools come to my next webinar and learn. www.inspiring-relationships.com.au/webinar
