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A while ago a friend of mine told me a story – she was dating a nice man and she was rally in love with him. She said everything was going very well. He had planned a trip before they met and so, when the time came, he went away for a three-week holiday. My friend did not consider this a big drama at all, just a new partner following through with previously planned commitments. They had spent a couple of nights together and she considered it to be the beginning of a serious relationship.

Why do we put so much pressure on ourselves? The other day a woman contacted me and voiced her concern for her partner. She really felt for him and asked me: “How do I get my partner to not put so much pressure on himself?” So here we are in the 21st century, where...

So here we are. 2018 slowly closing and 2019 lifting its head from the ground. How do you hope the next year will turn out to be? Do you hope to get a promotion? Do you plan on finally falling pregnant? Where would you like to go on holidays? And is it possible to revive your relationship and be happy and satisfied again with your partner?
As you sit here with your thoughts reaching out to the next 12 months, does your mind turn to making a New Year’s Eve resolution?

There are few critical moments which have the potential of defining a relationship – and one of those is travelling with your partner. Why is travelling such a critical endeavour? First of all, travel always requires a fair amount of organising and depending on the...

She then said something that really got me thinking. She said ”Even in the end, he did not see it coming. I spent the last couple of days at a friend’s place. And when I came home to tell him that is over, he only asked when I was coming home”.

When I speak to couples or individuals who seek me out for relationship guidance, I hear a lot of self-judgement.
Everyone is so reluctant to speak about their relationships and the issues they have. It seems like the common understanding goes something like ‘If your relationship is in dire straits then it must be your fault’. You are ashamed, you don’t want to expose your partner or yourself to public scrutiny.

Time. It is such a precious thing. We all have the same amount of hours and seconds each day, yet we all feel at times that we’d do anything to get more of it. That there isn’t enough of it. We even question how to slow it down. The real question we should be asking...

Renovating – a sure fire way to put stress into your relationship. In any relationship there are few pivotal moments that have the potential to make or break the harmony. Meeting the parents for instance or the birth of your first child or moving house. And even...

If you’re familiar with my works or have been following my blogs for a while, you’ll have read about the three pillars in your relationship. Quality Time, Talking and Sex. You’ll also be familiar with my stance that ongoing communication is one of the keys to a...

Is technology slowly poisoning our relationship? “You must be kidding?” – That’s what is probably going through your mind right now. You are reading this blog-article on your computer, tablet or smartphone. Without our great technology, these lines wouldn’t reach you....

How Do You Keep Your Relationship Exciting? In my Relationship Performance Indicator test my contacts can ask me any questions anonymously at the end of the quiz. The above question was posted there recently. I love this question, because it is so close to the reason...

Close to home ~ How to Avoid Relationship Overwhelm After the Arrival of your Baby In my neighbourhood lives a young couple who have recently welcomed their first child. The other day I was talking to them and their story struck a chord with me. It isn’t an uncommon...