After seeing so many of my close friends and acquaintances get divorced and start new relationships, I’ve noticed that there seems to be a common theme for what I affectionately like to call ‘second-time-arounders’. They all have to deal with the biggest challenge that their new relationship inevitably holds for them.
It is not having memories of their ex or memorabilia of their new partners’ ex screaming at them from every corner of their home like you might think.
When I speak to couples or individuals who seek me out for relationship guidance, I hear a lot of self-judgement.
Everyone is so reluctant to speak about their relationships and the issues they have. It seems like the common understanding goes something like ‘If your relationship is in dire straits then it must be your fault’. You are ashamed, you don’t want to expose your partner or yourself to public scrutiny.
Time. It is such a precious thing. We all have the same amount of hours and seconds each day, yet we all feel at times that we’d do anything to get more of it. That there isn’t enough of it. We even question how to slow it down. The real question we should be asking...read more
Renovating – a sure fire way to put stress into your relationship. In any relationship there are few pivotal moments that have the potential to make or break the harmony. Meeting the parents for instance or the birth of your first child or moving house. And even...read more
If you’re familiar with my works or have been following my blogs for a while, you’ll have read about the three pillars in your relationship. Quality Time, Talking and Sex. You’ll also be familiar with my stance that ongoing communication is one of the keys to a...read more
Is technology slowly poisoning our relationship? “You must be kidding?” – That’s what is probably going through your mind right now. You are reading this blog-article on your computer, tablet or smartphone. Without our great technology, these lines wouldn’t reach you....read more
How Do You Keep Your Relationship Exciting? In my Relationship Performance Indicator test my contacts can ask me any questions anonymously at the end of the quiz. The above question was posted there recently. I love this question, because it is so close to the reason...read more
Close to home ~ How to Avoid Relationship Overwhelm After the Arrival of your Baby In my neighbourhood lives a young couple who have recently welcomed their first child. The other day I was talking to them and their story struck a chord with me. It isn’t an uncommon...read more
Every day, I receive emails from distressed people wanting to discuss the difficulties in their relationships. And what is apparent to me is that the biggest fear is not their impending divorce… Most people share that their biggest fear is their future separation from...read more
The other day a client of mine asked me the question - ”Is it acceptable for one partner to have a close friendship with their ex-partner?” and I must admit, that it took me a few days to think about this and phrase the best answer. You see, there is not a straight...read more
Spring Time, the ideal time to re-kindle your love We all feel it in our veins. The sun is getting warmer, the days are getting longer, the breeze is milder. Spring is coming. This is the ideal time to re-connect with your partner and enjoy each other’s company. Open...read more
This is a true story, for the privacy of those involved I have changed names and blacked out their identity. Recently I offered a special: two free coaching sessions on one of the Facebook groups that I am a member of. Immediately a couple of interested people raised...read more